What is Right for You?



Families. What’s Right is up to you.

Whether your desire is three or more, or just you and your spouse, there are many decisions to make when it comes to families. If there’s one thing most of us agree about, it’s this: families are personal, individual decisions. No solution is the perfect solution for everyone. No matter if you choose to have two children, no children, or five children, it’s up to you, the parents!

First, we want you to know, it’s ok to plan!

It’s ok to think about your family decisions now. Family planning is just that, family decisions. There’s no better time than now to think about your family plan. Even if you intend to leave it all up to chance, that’s a family plan!

It doesn’t matter if you haven’t started having children yet, if you’re single, if you’ve already begun your families, if you don’t plan on having children, or if your family decisions have changed since your initial ideas. It’s ok to plan. Just keep in mind that there are many factors which will impact you and your partner: financial health, your spouse’s wants, physical health, parents, mental health, upbringing, religion, age, environmental impact, career aspirations, neighborhood, education, fertility, the size of your family when growing up, watching chaotic and organized families around you, as well as pressure from family, friends, and neighbors, etc.  Nobody enjoys receiving external pressure about families.  That’s applicable if you are not sure you want  children or how many you think is right!

So what’s right for you?   Quantity, spacing, location, biological children, choosing not to have children, fostering, and adoption; it’s all up to you and your spouse. Use the materials on this website as resources to help you find your perfect.  Down below, you can contact us and even share your story!

You may have noticed that most of the families we’ve highlighted in “Our Families” are small families. Why? We love small families!  It’s ok to be small: there are advantages.  It’s ok to plan small families on purpose.  We value your freedom and ours.  We’re not trying to tell you that small is the only way to go. We’re also not trying to tell you that you and your partner absolutely must have a family plan. We hope you’ll feel empowered and are active in the family decisions you choose to make.

We do want you to consider your options and ask yourself, am I making the family decisions I’m making because of external pressure? If so, that may not end in the best results for you.

Is small right for you?

Many of the families we interviewed for this website shared common motivations. We heard a big emphasis on wanting to be able to give individual attention to their children. We heard mention of financial stability, mental stability, having more time to focus on their children, and better able to be good stewards of the earth. That’s not saying that children in large families don’t get individualized attention or don’t care about these things; merely many of these Utah families felt that their specific situations were better suited to small families. And that’s ok!

Regardless of the size or makeup of your family, you can make a conscientious effort to be the best family that you can be. You can make a conscientious effort to leave your community better than the way you inherited it. As a family of one, a family of two, a family of four, a family of more: it’s ok to plan and ok to think smaller rather than larger.


SUBMIT YOUR STORY — Share your family story with us! We’d love to post your pictures as well (with your permission, of course).

Email your pictures to contact@utahpop.org.

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    • Nicole on April 19, 2016 at 6:22 pm


    I think this website is a great idea. I loved Beth’s video story. She made some good points- the more large families we have in Utah, the more houses we will need, the more urban and rural spread will happen, and the fewer natural sections of Utah will remain. I didn’t review the entire website, but if the idea is for residents to consider a smaller family (i.e., one, two, or zero children) then I think that is great!

    • Lynette on April 20, 2016 at 1:06 pm


    Some feedback for the website. First, this is propaganda clearly advocating small families for a lower population. As you say, the decision is between husband and wife but do not leave out God. We are partners with God as he sends his children from heaven into bodies he allows us to create. This is a solemn responsibility and He should be intimately involved.

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